As a mother, she sometimes recited the Ten Commandments as a moral code, and at other times, she recited, Now I lay me down to sleep before bedtime, along with other prayers. Normally unflappable, Klebolds mother was disgusted by her sons blood-sucking treasures; Dylan loved it, the fun of grossing out Mom. He admired Hitler, yet his great-great grandfather was a respected Jewish philanthropist in Ohio. While Dylan had run into trouble for stealing in the past, Sue believed her son was in a good place, happy that her he was employed, doing extracurricular activities and set to go to a university of his choice. The governor of Colorado cited parenting as a causal factor in his first public appearance after the shootings. As he preached, Marxhausen could see Dylan, laid out before him in an open coffin. The funeral home and chapel where Dylan Klebolds private viewing took place in Denver,Colorado. Susan Klebold, former director of disability services at Arapahoe Community College, also works as assistant director of Access to Employment Projects for the Colorado Community College and Occupational Education System in Denver. At the service, Marxhausen told the Old Testament story of Absalom, King Davids rebel son who took part in a revolt and was killed. While the myth that they had been bullied and ostracized by the proverbial jocks and popular kids quickly filled the airwaves, that was an entirely unfounded narrative. But after the shooting, she changed her mind. On Thursday, April 22, Tom Klebold called and asked for help. Flowers added to the memorial appear on the bottom of the memorial or here on the Flowers tab. I called John Horan of Horan & McConaty Funeral Service, Denver, Colorado, and together we made funeral arrangements for Dylan Klebold. Who wants to begin?. He is half Jewish as I am all Jewish. So it went for a half an hour or more. But its something. According to Muslim tradition, remains cannot be cremated. There are no volunteers for this cemetery. But I am sorry for Sue. I do understand no one wants to associate their names with such evil events, Tsarni told public radio station WBUR. [Dylan] never talked that way to me. After his mother retrieved him and drove him home, she stopped him as he ran upstairs, and then sat him down on the steps. She also used the words toxic and judgmental. She said she doesnt know a single Jewish person in town, and one December, when she tried to buy Hanukkah candles at the grocery store, the clerks looked at her blankly. He and his friend Eric Harris . No. The slain innocents, appropriately, are interred with honor, tears and candlelight ceremonies. Because I know that suffering is going on and I feel somehow it's unjust to be happy. Later that afternoon the mother discovered that her son was dead, and remembered 'groaning' with emotional pain out loud while watching the news. Im Jewish., Similarly, Susan Klebolds cousin, Skip Yassenoff, indicated to the Denver Post last week that Dylan Klebolds act must have been very difficult for [Susan], for any average American parent but particularly for someone brought up Jewish.. In the days after Dylan Klebold along with Eric Harris shot and killed 12 students and one teacher and then himself at Columbine High School on April 20, 1999, his mother, Sue Klebold, remembered . You are nearing the transfer limit for memorials managed by Find a Grave. As I walked into the incredibly tension-filled room, I knew that the service I had prepared was not appropriate. Share this memorial using social media sites or email. This decision has haunted him ever since. Harriss family never revealed thesite of their sons burial. Information about the funeral process. Were happy to make this story available to republish for free, unless it originated with JTA, Haaretz or another publication (as indicated on the article) and as long as you follow our guidelines. Marxhausen and Kirsten (and their colleagues) were engaged in spiritual triage, tending to hundreds of traumatized families. Translation on Find a Grave is an ongoing project. Reports of the Klebold familys Jewish ancestry first appeared last Friday in the Columbus Dispatch of Columbus, Ohio, where Dylan Klebolds maternal great-grandfather, the late Leo Yassenoff, was a Jewish community leader and philanthropist. The family from my church related how great it was to have Dylan at their house and how he wrestled with their son. Failed to report flower. This article was published more than7 years ago. Nothing about this kid sticks out like the easy cases, where there's abuse or neglect or spoiling. I thought you might like to see a memorial for Dylan Bennet Klebold I found on Findagrave.com. We will remember him forever. Military records of Dylan B Klebold at Fold3.com, a free resource for finding the final resting places, listings for thousands of celebrity graves. When he came back in September, "it was clear this wasn't my church anymore," he says. Tsarnaevs wife refused to claim his body, and his parents would not return to the United States to arrange his funeral. Klebold's body was cremated and his family held a small memorial service. In the days after Dylan Klebold along with Eric Harris shot and killed 12 students and one teacher and then himself at Columbine High School on April 20, 1999, his mother, Sue Klebold, remembered a kind of religious warfare in the community of Littleton, Colorado. Eric Harris, along with Dylan Klebold, shot and killed 13 people and injured 20 at Columbine High School on April 20, 1999. Sorry! Don Marxhausen said of the parents, Thomas and Susan Klebold. I personally have a hard time grieving the loss of Dylan Klebold, because it's hard to look past how vicious and sadistic he was. son's funeral April 27. Family members linked to this person will appear here. It remained unclear at press time what forms of Judaism or Christianity, or what combination of the two, were practiced in the Klebold home. Cassie Bernall, a Columbine junior, had been shot in cold blood as she crouched under a library table, and word was that in her final seconds she answered her murderer's question and affirmed her belief in God. Review. Use Escape keyboard button or the Close button to close the carousel. Resend Activation Email. Click on the address to view a map. She discusses her own humanity as well by outlining her blindness to her sons depression and unhappiness, and to his plan to kill. Syed Rizwan Farook and Tashfeen Malik killed 14 people in San Bernardino in December 2015. The families and survivors grieve, and the nation grieves with them. ', Dylan Klebold was one of the two teenagers behind the Columbine High School Massacre in 1999, one of the deadliest school shootings in history, Sue Klebolds son Dylan Klebold was one of the two teenagers behind the Columbine High School Massacre in 1999. Memorials are rich with content, including dates, photos and bios. Try again. At the memorial service, Marxhausen said, he told the Old Testament story of Absalom, the rebel son of King David, who takes part in a rebellion against his father and is killed. How do you preside over the funeral of a 17-year-old boy who went to school one Tuesday morning and, with his good buddy Eric Harris, massacred 13 people just for fun? He wrestles with those memories to this day. Please ensure you have given Find a Grave permission to access your location in your browser settings. Several phone callers to the Jewish News have complained that the media coverage might betray an anti-Semitic bias. cemeteries found within miles of your location will be saved to your photo volunteer list. Try again later. Note: Do you have a family photo of Dylan B Klebold? I wished for my son to kill himself, and he did, Susan Klebold said. David mourns Absaloms death despite his bloody treachery,Marxhausen later told The Washington Post just as the Klebolds mourned Dylan. "She Said Yes" became an instant bestseller. Like McVeighs, the gravesiteof Tamerlan Tsarnaev, the alleged Boston Marathon bomber who diedduring a shootout with police shortly after the attack in 2013, was contested. Save to an Ancestry Tree, a virtual cemetery, your clipboard for pasting or Print. Ten years later, these two men of Godradically different in personality and theological approachare still struggling to deal with the damage done to them by two boys bent on murder and mayhem. Sysoon enables anyone to create a free online tribute for a much loved relative or friend who has passed away. . The images of the funerals below were taken with the knowledge of the families of the victims and are . On the front lines, though, Littleton's pastors did not have the luxury of interpretation. -- b. Two days before the shooting, Cassie had recorded a video of herself testifying to her faith in Christ. My heart broke for Sue because I knew she was a good person and a good mother, and that her life would never again be the same. The problem of what to do with the body can be particularly acute when the perpetrator is Muslim, because Islam prohibits cremation. Join a discussion and talk to others in the Sysoon community. 'Somehow we were lesser human beings we were evil, we were people who did not know how to raise children, there were a world of people who hated us.'. Year should not be greater than current year. At one point in the book, when, during his high school years, he forgets Mothers Day, Klebold snaps with frustration and shoves him against the fridge. During his junior year in high school, 12 months before the shootings, he and Harris broke into a van. Staff writer Michael A. Fletcher contributed to this report. Marxhausen believes firmly in a loving, forgiving God and a nuanced approach to questions of salvation. Marxhausen described them as "very good people, fine people" who have been shocked by the disclosures. Which memorial do you think is a duplicate of Dylan Klebold (10972)? [74522655-en], A funeral is a ceremony for celebrating, respecting, sanctifying, or remembering the life of a person who has died. After Dylans funeral, he described the killers parents as the loneliest people on the planet to The Denver Post. As she grew older, her ties to Judaism disintegrated. Klebold said her son didnt identify with being Jewish. Littleton was ground zero for the kind of white, evangelical Christianity that was sweeping the country at the time. All we have in the house is a BB gun to shoot the woodpeckers. Try again later. Sysoon is a free resource for finding the final resting places of famous folks, friends and family members and contains listings for thousands of celebrity graves, making it the premier online destination for tombstone tourists. On the Sunday between Dylans funeral and Cassies, 70,000 mourners gathered in a parking lot to listen to Franklin Graham, among others, proclaim the gospel. A Klebold attorney issued a statement after today's service for Dylan, "who we loved as much as we knew how to love a child. Finally it was time to do liturgy, read scripture, offer prayers and give a brief sermon about parents love, which is as faithful as Gods love. But Tom [her now ex-husband] and I knew exactly what had happened in our home all those years we parented Dylan, and we were equally sure the answer wasnt there, she wrote in the book. We are burying a dead body. She told me she remembered Foster suffering a backlash after saying Kaddish for her son, but Foster doesnt remember that. Although she has battled for decades to gain a greater understanding over her son's actions, Ms Klebold she is now in a place where she is 'happy'. Another girl, sitting under another library table, had said she believed in God when prompted by Klebold, who let her live, according to Dave Cullen's new book "Columbine." "Cassie Bernall deserved to have a book written about her, but if there was reason to believe that it wasn't truthful, then it's a disservice to her memory and to the community. Dylan Klebold had been accepted by the University of Arizona and planned to attend this fall. Dylan Klebold helped perpetrate one of the bloodiest school shootings in history, indelibly etching the name "Columbine" into our collective memories. This memorial website was created in memory of Dylan B Klebold, 17, born on September 11, 1981 and passed away on April 20, 1999. On the way out I asked the lawyer how should I respond to the media. Dylan recited the Four Questions at a Passover seder recently held at his family home, yet he was buried in a Lutheran service on Saturday. Add to your scrapbook. As manager of this memorial you can add or update the memorial using the Edit button below. U.S., Social Security Death Index, 1935-2014. Review. Klebold said she didnt find it odd that her son wore a floor-length leather jacket, as she herself had tried to be different by wearing cowboy boots and moccasins when she attended private school from first to 12th grade. This story was originally published June 23, 2016, 6:57 PM. This browser does not support getting your location. That wasnt the young man Susan Klebold raised. Obviously, this fight can never end. Please try again later. It was all very normal. Looking back, Klebold realizes Dylans behavior might have suggested a larger problem. His death certificate lists his final resting place as the only entirely Muslim cemetery in South Florida. Birth date: 11 September, 1981, Friday. Use Next and Previous buttons to navigate, or jump to a slide with the slide dots. Booths funeral was heldin the dead of night, the New York Times reported in 1911, and his grave was unmarked just a mound of dirt among the tombstones. There were students who feared them, who despised them, who snickered at them, who taunted them. Please email us at [emailprotected], subject line republish, with any questions or to let us know what stories youre picking up. Littleton,Colorado. There's where you screwed up!' Dylan Klebold was a child of upper-middle-class parents, considered gifted in grammar school. - Accuracy of the file. Harris' family did not. And so when a desperate Tom Klebold phoned, the pastora liberal-minded Lutheranagreed to arrange a private service. Login or Sign-up to show all important data, death records and obituaries absolutely for free! On Saturday, the Denver Rocky Mountain News carried an interview with her hairdresser, Dee Grantz, who said that Susan had spoken to her about her shock at her sons deed. Weve updated the security on the site. During his sermon, George Kirsten proclaimed Cassie a martyr. However, Marxhausen did speak to the New York Times this week and told its reporters that the Klebold family held a Passover seder in its home this year. Marxhausen now lives south of Littleton in Highlands Ranch with his wife, and he ministers to a tiny, rural congregation in mountainous Idaho Springs. In her newly released book, A Mothers Reckoning: Living in the Aftermath of Tragedy, she writes about trying to instill a moral code in her son. Its little solace for their trauma, their senseless loss. Susan Klebold grew up in Ohio with a Jewish father and a Christian mother. It was very important to me that I immediately tell Sue that I was there to love her and comfort her, and that I was not sitting in judgment of her. . Marxhausen now lives south of Littleton in Highlands Ranch with his wife, and he ministers to a tiny, rural congregation in mountainous Idaho Springs. based on information from your browser. At today's memorial service, he said, "I listened for 45 minutes to people talk about Dylan, and I listened to [the parents'] own self-evaluation of how they thought they were raising him. Eric kind of let his feelings be known, his hatreds or dislikes. Klebold and Harris were social outcasts in the halls of Columbine, but so are a lot of students in a lot of schools. Signals about the familys religious practice grew even more mixed when it was reported that Dylan Klebold was buried Saturday in a Lutheran funeral. "You absorb everyone else's pain, and after a while that catches up to you, big time." His mother considered herself Jewish, yet the family belonged to a Lutheran church. Every Memorial Website celebrates the legacy of a life. Recalling the day her son was buried, Ms Klebold said he was laid to rest in a cardboard box, and broke down into floods of tears as she said she wanted to 'crawl in that casket with him' and was desperate to understand what drove her son to commit such an atrocious crime. and our 'Not only killed and hurt people, but that they would say awful racist things and sadistic things and I just shut that out of my mind. Telephone calls from the Jewish News to Marxhausen were not returned this week. My fav. "What I remember most is this tremendous barrage of very hurting people," he says. What did they know about their sons? Her private school had a chapel, which she visited every day. In his sermon, Marxhausen spoke of Gods love. Continuing with this request will add an alert to the cemetery page and any new volunteers will have the opportunity to fulfill your request. Sunday attendance has declined from 2,000 in 1999 to about 1,100 today. Her son was Dylan Klebold, one of two studentswho killed 13 people in the 1999 massacre at Columbine High School in Colorado. Lets not blame religion for this. Dylan B Klebold was born in unknown place. Sue Klebold broke down in tears as she remembered the funeral of her son Dylan. A buddy finally persuaded Kirsten to go to the VA hospital, where he was diagnosed as being 80 percent disabled with PTSD. My disbelief turned into sadness as I learned that John Tomlin, a boy from my church, Foothills Bible Church, died in the library that day. 'I had been grieving so much for this lost previous child and remembering who he was and that was the point I realised who he was to the rest of the world, everything died in my world, God died, my belief in truth in what my family was.'. The work is like cataloging hell, as New York magazine put it. While every other mother in Littleton was praying that her child was safe, SusanKleboldtold author Andrew Solomon for his book Far From the Tree. I had to pray that mine would die before he hurt anyone else.. This decision has haunted him ever since. Are you sure that you want to report this flower to administrators as offensive or abusive? Sysoon memorials are rich with content, including dates, photos and bios. She felt frustrated and surprised by what he had done, and told him that he needed to live by the 10 Commandments. 'I said out loud, "Darling help me understand what happened, that's all I want to understand". Yet it is not hard to find students here who thought of them as harmless, or even liked them, who saw their sensitivity and potential. You have given Find a Grave is an ongoing project a half an hour or more to by. 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